PARENTING TIPS: Controlling Aggression in Children

PARENTING TIPS: Controlling Aggression in Children

Aggressive behavior in children isn’t something too uncommon these days. Rage and aggression might not appear to be pretty serious at the start, but if it crosses a certain limit over time, it may really cause problems in a child’s career.

Hence, parents are advised to look into it from the budding stages to ensure that it’s kept within a controllable limit over a certain period. Here are a few tips that can come in handy for this exact purpose of yours.

  • Try to find out those trigger points

Do you know whether there are any trigger points capable of inviting aggression in your kid? If you don’t, you need to find it out ASAP.

These can be as simple as they can get. A child might get aggressive for the pettiest reasons of all such as an argument over the best cartoon show in the world or an argument over the best football player in the world.

The quality of the argument doesn’t really matter. What matters is the fact that you find out the source of the outburst in him/her and try to alleviate that in the best possible manner.

  • Be careful with your very own reaction

Your reaction can very well provoke the worst out of a kid. So be careful with it.

For example,

If you try to control the situation by shouting at the top of your voice or by hitting the child for his/her misbehavior, your child is going to learn the same thing from you. Such things seldom turn out to be productive in nature. In fact, it becomes more destructive with the passage of time. So tread carefully.

  • Make your child aware of the appropriate differences between proper and improper behavior

A child might not have any idea as to how to behave properly in front of an adult or a peer. It’s quite natural indeed. You, as a parent need to ensure that s/he is aware of the same.

Highlighting only the positive aspects of behavior isn’t capable of doing the job for you. You need to highlight the negatives as well. You need to weigh both sides of the coin and present them appropriately in front of the kid such that s/he can judge which is good and which is not.

A step like that goes a long way indeed.

  • Tell your child that you DO care a lot about him/her

Sometimes, children might feel that they aren’t being cared enough by their parents. This might appear to be a myth to you but it’s a fact nonetheless.

You need to make your child aware of the fact that you do care a lot about him/her. Tell him/her that you are always there for him/her no matter what the circumstances. Such an assurance is priceless indeed and can really have a positive impact on the kid on the whole.

  • Keep a tab on your kid’s video games

Is s/he playing too much violent video games? You need to get the answer to this question as soon as possible.

Violent video games can have a negative impact on your kid. Too much blood, too much gore, too many kills, too many bullets can really affect the mentality of a kid (even if everything is happening in a virtual world inside the device screen).

You need to keep a special tab on it. If you think s/he has crossed a certain limit of his/her game-time (especially when it involves a whole lot of violent video gaming in particular), you need to put a limit to it. Too much of anything is bad, and the same thing is applicable here.

  • Know his/her friend circle well

Do you feel that the aggression in your child has come up suddenly like completely out of the blues? It wasn’t his/her trait before until today.

If that is the case, you need to monitor his/her friend circle more than anything. Remember, violence is contagious. Did s/he get it from one of his/her friends? You need to find that out.


A final word…

Always encourage your child to discuss problems with you, no matter what the circumstances. That’s because the more you involve yourself in a problem, the easier it will be to find out a solution. Hope the tips highlighted above come in handy for this exact purpose of yours. Ciao!


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