Ways to Help Your Child Develop Good Judgment Skills
- Dec 03, 2015
Smartness isn't just about academic achievements and a shining score. It's way more than that. Academic knowledge can definitely get your child up the ladder above a considerable number of students, but smart decision-making and judgment skills make sure that he stays up there and continues to make progress.
The IQ (intelligence quotient) is definitely an important portion of our education. EQ (emotional quotient or emotional intelligence) is equally important to get by in life. But these are not enough ammunition to face the challenges of the real world. Even a person with a high intelligence and emotional quotient can make a bad judgment call in a grave situation.
So what is smartness all about? It is about coping with the challenges that the real world brings up without prior announcement. To be more specific, smart people have good judgment skills that help them take the right decisions. In other words, good judgment is key to taking good decisions.
Good judgment skills will not only help your child avoid being in a situation where he is crippled with a bout of indecision, but would also help him steer clear of making any wrong choice that might take him spiraling down. Your child's overall development will only commence once you start helping him develop good judgment skills along with his academic and interpersonal training.
In this article, we are going to discuss a few ways that you can employ to help your child develop good judgment skills. Read on to find out more.
Let Him Take His Decisions Within a Limit
Good judgment comes with experience. The more choices your child makes, the more aware he will become of the consequences that tag along. This will help him in taking better decisions the next time he are faced with a similar situation. However, you would obviously need to monitor the decisions that he takes closely to avoid any mishap. Wrong decisions within a certain limit (which is obviously specified by age) are fine. For example, a mismatch in the color co-ordination of his outfit is just fine. It won't harm him.
That being said, you would need to draw the line where you feel that the situation might go out of hand. Set rules and make sure that your child is aware of the line of control.
Tell Him That It's Okay to Make Mistakes If They are Not Repeated
Mistakes do not make us weak, they only make us human. Failure is a wonderful learning tool. As Thomas Edison rightly said, “I didn't fail, I just found 2000 ways not to make a lightbulb.” Mistakes teach us important lessons. It is one thing to be told what to do and what not, but it is completely different to experience why something is considered incorrect.
Mistakes can be rectified to a certain point. Beyond that, they become valuable lessons. It is your responsibility to teach your child not to commit the same mistake again. Once he realizes the consequences, he would never make a bad judgment call like that again.
Model Good Judgment and Decision-Making
When your child sees you making good decisions, he will automatically follow your path. But you would obviously need to follow up your decisions with reasons. This will help him evaluate every situation carefully before he decides on what to do. For example, “I would carry an umbrella because the sky looks overcast” would be the right approach.
That being said, this process will also highlight the mistakes that you make. What matters here is that you set an example by not repeating them. As your child gets exposed to these values, it will help instill in him, similar morals.
Don't Solve Your Child's Problems for him
As your child grows up, he is going to face challenges every step of the way. If you take a closer look at some of these challenges, you will find that they are actually not threatening and could be solved by your child himself. In situations like these, you would need to trust the values that you have taught your kid and let him take responsibility for his actions. On the contrary, if you decide to solve his problems, it would become a habit for him and he would expect you to come up with solutions every time he faces one.
The following video shows how you can help your kids become responsible.
However, it is not advisable to give up full control. This is because it might result in situations where you might find your child's approach to solving a problem detrimental to his own future. We recommend you to follow a guided approach to encourage him to take the right decisions. You can do this by asking open-ended questions like:
- Where do you think we can find out more about the problem?
- What do you think would be the right approach to solve the problem?
- Why do you think this approach would help?
- Are there any other ideas that we could try?
As you ask questions, two things will happen:
- Your child will begin to think in new and different ways.
- He would begin to question his own thoughts.
This would encourage critical thinking and reasoning. He would think the solution over in his mind before applying it. This process eliminates loopholes in judgment, if any and is, therefore, quite effective.
As your child begins to explore various possibilities in life, it is important for him to know that his parents are going to take his ideas and thoughts seriously and be there to support him. This boosts his confidence. With your child developing new skills every day, you are going to hear a lot of “Look what I learnt today!” You can nurture these emerging skills by showing interest in their newly found excitement.
Additionally, you can also provide opportunities for them to apply their skills to do things on their own. When they emerge successful, be sure to appreciate their efforts. This would help them become confident about their abilities and decisions.
It is important for your child to know that his thoughts are heard and respected in the house and they matter. He needs to know that he can share his problems with you without any hindrance. If you are aware of his problems, you can help him find a solution. This eliminates the risk of your child hiding things from you and patching his problems up with temporary solutions that could turn out to be harmful later on.
These are a few basic suggestions that can help your child develop good judgment skills. Obviously, your approach is going to be more aligned with the requirements of your child. So you can modify or build on this list accordingly. Before taking any decision, think of how the decisions will affect your child in the long run. Children are quite observant. The examples you set are going to have a huge impact on their thinking procedures. Make sure you are setting a good one.
Would you like to add any other suggestions to this list? Share those with us in the comments section below. We would love to hear your thoughts.
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